Your MOL is the insensitive one and your husband needs to catch a clue, and very quickly also. My baby was 10 weeks premature so I myself was extremely over protective. Kissing a newborn who was carried full term is risky as it is, it is worse for preemies, whose little bodies cannot fight off infections that well. A full term baby can die from someone spreading the herpes virus via kissing. As a matter of fact, any baby, can die from it. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind, and you right now are doing what is best for your baby. I know, I've been there. It is hard enough feeling like a failure for not carrying baby to term. You can't have anything else happen to your little one. Let them know where to get off. And that crying thing, don't let it phase you. It is a guilt trip for you to give in. DO NOT GIVE IN. My only wish is that your husband was more supportive of you as his wife, and your more supportive of your decision to protect your (plural) daughter. Good luck and remember to stay firm x