Posted by Azania Tuesday, August 13, 2019 6:54:00 AM

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Tuesday, August 13, 2019 12:16:59 PM
Cherylann Bowen
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re: Bump to Birth Advice Letter: Please DON'T KISS The Baby

First thing first. The baby is you and your husband's child. Not your MOL nor anyone else's. They need to respect and accept that fact. I'm sure when your MOL was in that situation she laid her ground rules.

Also your baby is a preemie and at 7 wks old is still very suceptible to infections. I too had a preemie so I know. My baby was 10 wks early and I had to be very careful and firm with people. Yu are your baby's protectr as she cannot defend herself. A lot more people will be offended by the stances you will have to take throughout her lifetime. That comes with the title of Mother. Congratulations on the birth of your daughter. Blessings

Your MOL should be more understanding and considerate.

Just my two cents.

 

 

Saturday, August 17, 2019 10:15:50 AM
Chantal
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re: Bump to Birth Advice Letter: Please DON'T KISS The Baby

Your MOL is the insensitive one and your husband needs to catch a clue, and very quickly also. My baby was 10 weeks premature so I myself was extremely over protective. Kissing a newborn who was carried full term is risky as it is, it is worse for preemies, whose little bodies cannot fight off infections that well. A full term baby can die from someone spreading the herpes virus via kissing. As a matter of fact, any baby, can die from it. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind, and you right now are doing what is best for your baby. I know, I've been there. It is hard enough feeling like a failure for not carrying baby to term. You can't have anything else happen to your little one. Let them know where to get off. And that crying thing, don't let it phase you. It is a guilt trip for you to give in. DO NOT GIVE IN. My only wish is that your husband was more supportive of you as his wife, and your more supportive of your decision to protect your (plural) daughter. Good luck and remember to stay firm x