I have two daughters, 9 and 5, the eldest of whom is not my husband’s. I have no complaints about his treatment of my eldest daughter at all and no real complaints about his family’s treatment of her. BUT I have noticed somethings that concern me.
While my in-laws always buy birthday presents for their actual granddaughter there is nothing for my eldest, so one year I invited them to a birthday for her. Two out of five of them turned up and did get her a nice present. Once in a while they will remember to bring something for my older daughter but the gifts are not as thoughtful as for the daughter i share with my husband.
They are clearly not bad people but clearly don’t see her as family.
My husband's brother is getting married. He and his wife asked if our younger daughter. the one biologically related to them - could be a flower girl. When I asked about my older daughter they said
"Well...kids aren't really invited." It's a child free wedding EXCEPT for the bridal party. I am so upset I feel that if I make a fuss they will actually just outright say that she isn’t family.
Am I being unreasonable? Should she have been invited to this step- uncle's wedding? In my heart of hearts (not that I would tell anyone in real life,)I think she should have been asked to be a flower girl too! Im worried that she will feel left out and it could emotionally damage her for years to come. Should I even let my younger daughter be a flower girl? Please help